We might be empowered or haunted by disruption. The significance we assign to unforeseen life circumstances determines their personal influence. Among the obstacles I had to overcome as a teenager were self-harm, medical emergencies, being laid off while ill, and overcoming father guilt.
Feeling overshadowed by my larger family caused me to become distant from them for a very long period. In our family, we cleared up a lot of unstated presumptions and misconceptions that nobody had spoken with us. Our candor encouraged more personal discussions and get-togethers with other family members.